I am Free
Live It Up eNews! August 2009
1. Control Issues
2. Recipe: Yellow Chicken Curry
Dear Reader
This month has been very busy with work – welcome to my new clients, attending events for students, and writing writing.
I have been accepted to speak at an international psychology conference with a paper on timeline techniques for trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder, in South Korea, so that is really exciting!
So, this month have written an article for Brisbane Circle magazine on the loss of communication and how that leads to loss of sex life, and the paper for the conference, and now the Newsletter! I’m very pleased with myself for getting it all done.
I’m also really pleased with the daily yoga and meditation practice that has helped my body to become much more flexible and relaxed, and it feels really good to know I am taking care of myself. A central theme as all my clients know!
So, take care of you with love and affection,
Until next month, Live Life 2 The Max! Narelle
1. Control Issues?
© Narelle Stratford 2009
My clients are intelligent people and often highly intellectual. They like to rationalise their behaviour, their thoughts, and actions, and want to rationalise their emotions away too. Oh how simple life would be if you didn’t have feelings!!
Control Your Feelings?
And feelings we do have in abundance, and of course, they are not necessarily positive and optimistic feelings for ourself or our future or loved ones.
And if you have a need to be right (or as one of my clients pointed out, “it is not so much that I want to be right, I just don’t want to be wrong”), or better yet, in control of…. well, everything, then life would be so much easier, wouldn’t it?
- If people would just do what you want them to do…
- If the lights would just be green every time you drove…
- If those other drivers would just drive properly…
- If the kids would stop making so much noise… why do they have to be so happy?
- If you could turn off the voice in your head…
If you could control those circumstances that say your love may be out of the country for a while…
Paradox of Letting Go
The funny thing is that the moment you stop trying to control everything and everyone around you, you will actually be free! Yes, you will feel free.
While you have been trying so hard to stay in control and control all, you have been expending enormous amounts of energy holding yourself together, to stop yourself from exploding. You can only do this for so long and then a meltdown is likely to occur because you run out of energy and exhaust yourself.
It is an illusion to think you can control everything and everyone because the only person whom you can control is you. There are no external events or people whom you can control. You can guide, advise, request and envision positive events and you cannot control them.
If control issues are your thing, and you even want to control your therapy session because you think you know how to do it better! (smile!) then let go, let yourself trust the person you are working with, and feel free.
So, if you want a feeling of being in control, then control yourself and feel the freedom of letting go now. Laugh, and enjoy the paradox!
Need help with this? Please do call and make an appointment. Control issues can be deadly in relationships whether personal or business.
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2. Recipe: Yellow Chicken Curry
Fry paste in hot oil for one minute, then add onion and garlic, and add chicken. Fry and turn until almost cooked then add 1 can light coconut milk.
Add 1 cup cubed pumpkin, 1/2 red capsicum slices, and simmer for 20 minutes, stirring occasionally. then add broccoli florets, and handful of green beans (cut in half) and put the lid on and simmer for further 3 minutes.
Serve with brown rice or basmati and enjoy!
